Relationships Thread

[Squinty]

That's a tough break there. How does she feel about the situation?

[Donk]

[Oblomov Boblomov]

This should be the happiest news in the world .

The pregnancy will be terminated and I am very worried how it will affect her. She is an emotional person at the best of times.

[Victor Mildew]

Was just going to post that

Congratulations!(? )

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[Victor Mildew]

This should be the happiest news in the world .

The pregnancy will be terminated and I am very worried how it will affect her. She is an emotional person at the best of times.

[Hesk]

This should be the happiest news in the world .

The pregnancy will be terminated and I am very worried how it will affect her. She is an emotional person at the best of times.

This is the main thing I'd worry about if my girlfriend got pregnant. I believe she'd probably want an abortion (though after much deliberation) as I know her views on the idea of children but I also know how guilty she'd feel about it and how much it could potentially effect her emotionally on a permanent level.

I don't envy your situation at all, best of luck.

[Shadow]

This should be the happiest news in the world .

The pregnancy will be terminated and I am very worried how it will affect her. She is an emotional person at the best of times.

How old are you Ob? Seems the kind of decision you really need to think about, don't rush into an abortion you may later regret.

Kids are loads of fun.

[smurphy]

Damn, sorry to hear that Oblo. How did it happen, what sort of protection were you using?

[That's not a growth]

Damn man, hope things work out for you.

[Oblomov Boblomov]

Thanks, guys. I was woken up by her crying this morning. I'm 25, she's 22. We would both absolutely love to have a baby, but we won't be ready for another few years, and I don't think it would be fair on the child.

Time for both of us to get to work... can't see her lasting the day.

[Shadow]

Thanks, guys. I was woken up by her crying this morning. I'm 25, she's 22. We would both absolutely love to have a baby, but we won't be ready for another few years, and I don't think it would be fair on the child.

Time for both of us to get to work... can't see her lasting the day.

The fact that you're both working might suggest you're more ready than a lot of parents. And maybe more ready than you think.

Kids are a huge change, and frankly, you'll probably never feel 100% "ready". Whatever decision you make I would urge you to take your time, this isn't something you want to get over and done with, there's no going back and I know some one close to me who had to live with a regretted termination and it really was horrible for her.

Has she told her mum? Mums are usually good for this sort of thing.

[Fatal Exception]

Thanks, guys. I was woken up by her crying this morning. I'm 25, she's 22. We would both absolutely love to have a baby, but we won't be ready for another few years, and I don't think it would be fair on the child.

Time for both of us to get to work... can't see her lasting the day.

Protip - No one but mentalists are ever 'ready' to have kids.

[That's not a growth]

I've got two mates who became Dads within the last year, so before their 25th birthdays. They didn't think they were ready and loving it now.

In fact, the one who I thought who would be the worst at it had a good long talk with me once about how it was the most rewarding thing he's done and doesn't regret it for a second. He was the kind of guy who was a great laugh but you'd never considered to take responsibility seriously. It's crazy how you adapt.

[False]

Seriously, it must be a tough call to make. I dont know what Id do. On one hand, I could financially support a child and think Im intelligent enough to have a good crack at it - on the other, it would utterly ruin my life as it is now, and I dont think I really like kids. Then again I dont know if I could deal with the guilt of a termination, but it isnt sentient if its just embryonic.

Dont envy anyone who has to make the choice. Thankfully my own adventures have only taken me as far as the 'potential' scare stage.

[Moggy]

It’s a tough decision to have to make but it is up to the two of you. I think you need to talk it through and not rush to a decision though, this is going to be the biggest decision either of you have ever made.

As others have said, I don’t think anybody is ever ready for kids, even if they have been trying for them for ages. People cope and very few end up regretting having them, but only you know your actual situation.

[Banjo]

In less than a year I'll be the same age my Dad was when I was born.

I don't mind the idea of parenthood, though I would certainly like to hold off on it for a good few more years. Too many things I'd like to see and do, plus there is no way I could afford to bring a kid up and provide a decent life for it.

[Mini E]

The thought of kids at my age (22) is basically the worst case scenario and something I have absolutely no idea how I would deal with... It doesn't even bear thinking about.

[False]

My parents had me when they were 21 I think. Im 23 and some days I have such difficulty finding the right tshirt or pair of pants that I just stay in bed.

Most of my workmates didnt have kids / are currently having kids at around 30 though, so maybe firing out sprogs early isnt the done thing these days.

[Rax]

My Dad was my age when I was born, he also had a mortgage and a wife. I have a room full of Lego and video games.